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Happy Thursday. As part of this month’s A to Z Challenge, I am focusing on bringing awareness to child abuse and sexual assault. It has been one eXtreme and eXhausting process but hopefully I have been able to give voice to these victims and survivors and to remind my lovely readers that we are not alone. So today lets talk about those horrid eXcuses people give for abuse and assault.
If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it.
— Clayton Williams, 1990
If women dress provocatively, then “rapes are not in the control of the police.”— Dinesh Reddy, Indian police chief
To avoid getting raped, “…young ladies should not drink too much.”
— Lai Tung-kwok, Hong Kong’s secretary for security
“She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky.”
– Serena Williams, RE: Steubenville rape case
The 14-year-old victim was “as much in control of the situation” as her 54-year-old rapist.
— Todd Baugh, a Montana judge who sentenced the teacher rapist to 30 days in jail
Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all of society’s rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.”
– Nenia Campbell,
Whose fault was it? Aunt Helena says, holding up one plump finger. Her
fault, her fault, her fault. We chant in unison. Who led them on? She
did. She did. She did. Why did God allow such a terrible thing to
happen? Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson.”
― Margaret Atwood,
Please never make eXcuses for abusers and rapists or shame the victims… They need your love and support. Not your judgement.