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X: eXcuses

Happy Thursday. As part of this month's A to Z Challenge, I am focusing on bringing awareness to child abuse and sexual assault. It has been one eXtreme and eXhausting process but hopefully I have been able to give voice to these victims and survivors and to remind my lovely readers that we are not alone. So today lets talk about those horrid eXcuses people give for abuse and assault.

These quotes are authentic even though they may seem eXtreme and I will let them speak for themselves.
If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it.
— Clayton Williams, 1990
If women dress provocatively, then “rapes are not in the control of the police.”
— Dinesh Reddy, Indian police chief
To avoid getting raped, “…young ladies should not drink too much.”
— Lai Tung-kwok, Hong Kong’s secretary for security
“She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky.”
- Serena Williams, RE: Steubenville rape case
The 14-year-old victim was “as much in control of the situation” as her 54-year-old rapist.
— Todd Baugh, a Montana judge who sentenced the teacher rapist to 30 days in jail
Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all of society's rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.”
― Nenia Campbell, Cease and Desist
Whose fault was it? Aunt Helena says, holding up one plump finger. Her fault, her fault, her fault. We chant in unison. Who led them on? She did. She did. She did. Why did God allow such a terrible thing to happen? Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid's Tale

Please never make eXcuses for abusers and rapists or shame the victims... They need your love and support. Not your judgement.


  1. I honestly cannot believe the ignorant thing people say about rape!!! Do they have any idea how hateful they sound. Disgusting.

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  2. People say stupid things sometimes.

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    1. Right? Had to do a double take when I was doing my research. :(

  3. Good X post! Must have taken you a while to compile those quotes. I'm sure there's more where they came from. Luckily, our society is becoming more aware. Maui Jungalow

    1. I fear we are not nearly aware enough :(

  4. Reading these makes my blood boil.

    And yes, Courtney, society is becoming more "aware", but this is still happening. And it shouldn't EVER happen, for ANY reason.

    Joy, I'm tired too! But go us!!!

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  5. I can't believe so many people still make these kinds of excuses. I actually know someone whom I can easily picture saying things like this, since he's said a lot of other things in a similar vein, like how women always ruin everything and that a lot of women make up rape stories for attention.

  6. Some of those quote excuses were shameless. They wouldn't have said it if it abuse affect them or someone they loved. So true not to make excuses or to judge but to support and love those that are victims. I find it interesting the Montana case of the teacher only getting 31 days in jail. I went back just now and googled the case. I saw that he was re-sentenced to 15 years; got 5 years off of that for some reason, so 10 years in prison. I also saw the young victim committed suicide in 2010. My children went to that high school; daughter graduated from it in 2003, son did his freshman, sophomore and junior years there before we moved to California where he graduated in 2007.


  7. We have some very stupid, ignorant or just very unthinking people out there. It does boggle the mind.


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